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The Success Secret Is…
June 25, 2009 by Helen
“…you have to visualize it, and feel it, and study it, and do everything you can to experience it – before you can make it happen for yourself, and ultimately make it into a habit. It may take you 46 attempts to get your first big victory – but once you get it – you can get it again.”
Jeffrey Gittomer
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May 23, 2009 by Helen
A goal is a dream with a deadline.
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Napoleon Hill
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May 22, 2009 by Katerina
There is an old saying “If you want something done, ask a busy person. ” There is a lot of truth in this. Sometimes, we struggle to do anything productive – even if we have time on our hands. But, at other times we can do alot because we prepare, are focused and do it with enthusiasm.
There are several small things that can make a big difference to how successful we become. These are some tips to help get things done.
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Be Clear What you Want to do.
It might seem a rather obvious point, but if we are not clear what we want to do – how can we do it effectively? I have a student who always talks of giving up smoking. Half of him wants to stop, but the other half enjoys it. If you want to do something difficult like give up smoking you have to be 100% committed. If you do something but are holding onto reservations, you will not be fully committed and so it will be much harder, if not impossible. Too often we drift along with vague ideas we should be doing something; we hold a certain guilt for not doing it, but, we fail to clearly resolve to take action – so it gets left on the back burner.
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Clear Out the Junk.
One of the biggest obstacles to being productive is getting distracted by small silly things. Having a tidy / clear workspace makes a big difference to being able to work with great focus. Entering a clear, simple work environment gives a definite subconscious psychological boost. Just try tidying your workspace, ruthless clearing out the junk and pieces of paper – you will definitely notice the difference. We have a rather romantic view of the eccentric genius working in paper strewn mess coming up with complex equations. But, for most of us, working in this kind of environment makes it much more difficult to do anything. Investing 10 minutes to create a clear workspace is a good investment of time.
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Do One Thing at A Time
It is not possible to do more than one thing at a time and be focused. Our attention gets split and we struggle to do either effectively. This doesn’t just mean physically doing only one thing at a time; it also means having our thoughts focused on one particular task. When writing an essay, we need to ignore other thoughts of what we will be doing tomorrow. There is no benefit in worrying over things that we have no control.
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Be in the Right Environment
As we have mentioned in previous points, the real secret for getting things done is being 100% committed and focused. Another thing that can help is getting into the right environment. For example, if you need to work at home, create a suitable space for your work. If you carry your laptop into the lounge in front of the TV, you can get easily distracted. Even changing clothes can make a difference. Sometimes, I wander out into the garden in my slippers and start half-heartedly gardening. When you do something be in the right space, environment and with the right tools / equipment.
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Prioritise
The art of getting things done doesn’t mean we have to be a permanent hive of activity, business and stress. The problem is that we are often ‘busy’ doing unimportant and inconsequential things. We need to make a list (either written or mental) of what needs doing and doing the most pressing things first, even if it is not necessarily the most pleasant.
Feel that whatever you do there is an opportunity cost. If we spend time flicking through tv channels it means we don’t have time for something more fulfilling and worthwhile.
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Finish what you start.
The hardest thing with getting things done is often just getting started. It takes a mental effort to get started, so once we overcome this barrier try finishing it in one go. If we keep stopping and starting we will waste precious time and loose focus. Where possible try to benefit from economies of scale. e.g. rather than checking emails several times throughout the day, set aside one or two times to answer and deal with your inbox. This is more efficient than responding piecemeal to incoming messages. (and often when you are trying to do something else as well.)
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Read the Instruction manual
It’s a bit of novelty in our ipod generation, but so many times I try to do something without any preparation, make it worse and then have to go back to read the instruction manual. Good preparation can save a lot of heartache and wasted effort. Jumping straight in without any clear plan isn’t usually the best way to get something done.
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Be Enthusiastic for what you do.
If we can always maintain enthusiasm for what we do, our enthusiasm will carry us through all obstacles and problems. This is a real secret of getting things done.
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May 16, 2009 by Katerina
If you want to make things happen the ability to motivate yourself and others is a crucial skill. At work, home, and everywhere in between, people use motivation to get results. Motivation requires a delicate balance of communication, structure, and incentives. These 20 tactics will help you maximize motivation in yourself and others.
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Consequences – Never use threats. They’ll turn people against you. But making people aware of the negative consequences of not getting results (for everyone involved) can have a big impact. This one is also big for self motivation. If you don’t get your act together, will you ever get what you want? - Pleasure – This is the old carrot on a stick technique. Providing pleasurable rewards creates eager and productive people.
- Performance incentives – Appeal to people’s selfish nature. Give them the opportunity to earn more for themselves by earning more for you.
- Detailed instructions – If you want a specific result, give specific instructions. People work better when they know exactly what’s expected.
- Short and long term goals – Use both short and long term goals to guide the action process and create an overall philosophy.
- Kindness – Get people on your side and they’ll want to help you. Piss them off and they’ll do everything they can to screw you over.
- Deadlines – Many people are most productive right before a big deadline. They also have a hard time focusing until that deadline is looming overhead. Use this to your advantage by setting up a series of mini-deadlines building up to an end result.
- Team Spirit – Create an environment of camaraderie. People work more effectively when they feel like part of team — they don’t want to let others down.
- Recognize achievement – Make a point to recognize achievements one-on-one and also in group settings. People like to see that their work isn’t being ignored.
- Personal stake – Think about the personal stake of others. What do they need? By understanding this you’ll be able to keep people happy and productive.
- Concentrate on outcomes – No one likes to work with someone standing over their shoulder. Focus on outcomes — make it clear what you want and cut people loose to get it done on their own.
- Trust and Respect – Give people the trust and respect they deserve and they’ll respond to requests much more favorably.
- Create challenges – People are happy when they’re progressing towards a goal. Give them the opportunity to face new and difficult problems and they’ll be more enthusiastic.
- Let people be creative – Don’t expect everyone to do things your way. Allowing people to be creative creates a more optimistic environment and can lead to awesome new ideas.
- Constructive criticism – Often people don’t realize what they’re doing wrong. Let them know. Most people want to improve and will make an effort once they know how to do it.
- Demand improvement - Don’t let people stagnate. Each time someone advances raise the bar a little higher (especially for yourself).
- Make it fun – Work is most enjoyable when it doesn’t feel like work at all. Let people have fun and the positive environment will lead to better results.
- Create opportunities – Give people the opportunity to advance. Let them know that hard work will pay off.
- Communication – Keep the communication channels open. By being aware of potential problems you can fix them before a serious dispute arises.
- Make it stimulating - Mix it up. Don’t ask people to do the same boring tasks all the time. A stimulating environment creates enthusiasm and the opportunity for “big picture” thinking.
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Master these key points and you’ll increase motivation with a bit of hard work.
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May 7, 2009 by Helen

Obstacles can’t stop you.
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Problems can’t stop you.
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Most of all, other people can’t stop you.
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Only you can stop you.
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(Jeffrey Gitomer)
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April 21, 2009 by Helen
Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.
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(Brian Tracy)
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April 14, 2009 by Helen
The secret of success in life, is for a man to be ready for his opportunity
when it comes.
(Disraeli)
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March 20, 2009 by Olgita
Have you ever been plagued with fear? Has your insecurity prevented you from pursuing your dreams? Many women struggle with paralyzing fears that prevent them from living a life of purpose and passion.
Fear is a difficult barrier to overcome, but when you take steps to tackle your fears, you begin to disown the limiting beliefs that prevent you from living a purposeful life. Here are 3 steps to help you to look fear in the face.
- Decide to face your fear: The most important step you can take in overcoming your fear is deciding to take it head on. It may seem obvious, but don’t underestimate the power of decision. When you make a decision, you make a commitment. Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe once wrote: “Until one is committed, there is hesitance, the chance to draw back. Always ineffectiveness.” Don’t be ineffective! Decide to face your fear.
- Take a step: When you finally decide to face your fear, you should take incremental steps towards your goal. The key word here is “incremental.” Taking incremental steps will help you to build your confidence and courage.
- Celebrate your victories: Every step you take towards facing your fear will empower you and make you stronger. Relish those moments and celebrate your victories. Each victory will provide the fuel for the next challenge you may encounter.
Let me encourage you; decide today to look fear in the face. Take incremental steps towards overcoming your fear and start moving toward living your life with purpose and passion.
Ellie Nieves is a Leadership Coach who helps women to become effective leaders, create healthier relationships and achieve extraordinary results in their lives. You can e-mail her at ellie@ ellienieves.com or visit her website at www.LeadershipStrategiesForWomen.com.
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March 8, 2009 by Olgita
Leadership style is the manner and approach of providing direction, implementing plans, and motivating people. Kurt Lewin (1939) led a group of researchers to identify different styles of leadership. This early study has been very influential and established three major leadership styles. The three major styles of leadership are:
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- Authoritarian or autocratic
- Participative or democratic
- Delegative or Free Reign
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Although good leaders use all three styles, with one of them normally dominant, bad leaders tend to stick with one style.
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- I want both of you to. . .
This style is used when leaders tell their employees what they want done and how they want it accompished, without getting the advice of their followers. Some of the appropriate conditions to use it is when you have all the information to solve the problem, you are short on time, and your employees are well motivated.
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Some people tend to think of this style as a vehicle for yelling, using demeaning language, and leading by threats and abusing their power. This is not the authoritarian style, rather it is an abusive, unprofessional style called bossing people around. It has no place in a leader’s repertoire.
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The authoritarian style should normally only be used on rare occasions. If you have the time and want to gain more commitment and motivation from your employees, then you should use the participative style.
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Participative (democratic)
- Let’s work together to solve this. . .
This style involves the leader including one or more employees in the decision making process (determining what to do and how to do it). However, the leader maintains the final decision making authority. Using this style is not a sign of weakness, rather it is a sign of strength that your employees will respect.
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This is normally used when you have part of the information, and your employees have other parts. Note that a leader is not expected to know everything — this is why you employ knowledgeable and skillful employees. Using this style is of mutual benefit — it allows them to become part of the team and allows you to make better decisions.
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Delegative (free reign)
- You two take care of the problem while I go. . .
In this style, the leader allows the employees to make the decisions. However, the leader is still responsible for the decisions that are made. This is used when employees are able to analyze the situation and determine what needs to be done and how to do it. You cannot do everything! You must set priorities and delegate certain tasks.
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This is not a style to use so that you can blame others when things go wrong, rather this is a style to be used when you fully trust and confidence in the people below you. Do not be afraid to use it, however, use it wisely!
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A good leader uses all three styles, depending on what forces are involved between the followers, the leader, and the situation. Some examples include:
- Using an authoritarian style on a new employee who is just learning the job. The leader is competent and a good coach. The employee is motivated to learn a new skill. The situation is a new environment for the employee.
- Using a participative style with a team of workers who know their job. The leader knows the problem, but does not have all the information. The employees know their jobs and want to become part of the team.
- Using a delegative style with a worker who knows more about the job than you. You cannot do everything! The employee needs to take ownership of her job. Also, the situation might call for you to be at other places, doing other things.
- Using all three: Telling your employees that a procedure is not working correctly and a new one must be established (authoritarian). Asking for their ideas and input on creating a new procedure (participative). Delegating tasks in order to implement the new procedure (delegative).
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Forces that influence the style to be used included:
- How much time is available.
- Are relationships based on respect and trust or on disrespect?
- Who has the information – you, your employees, or both?
- How well your employees are trained and how well you know the task.
- Internal conflicts.
- Stress levels.
- Type of task. Is it structured, unstructured, complicated, or simple?
- Laws or established procedures such as OSHA or training plans.
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February 20, 2009 by Olgita

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There are many miracles in this world, and I believe one of them is the ability of one person lead millions of others, inflame people with some idea, generate and distroy communities, bring in deep existential sense into lives of people. I mean the phenomenon of leadership. It was and is used to the good or bad of these other people. It is one of the biggest misteries of humanity. It has been constantly studied and analyzed by greatest minds since the time being. So what is leadership? How can we define it? How can we see it? How can we learn to be leaders? These and many other questions I would like to review in the set of articles about leadership.
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Leadership is one of the most salient aspects of the organizational context. However, defining leadership has been challenging. There is a number of theories, which explain leadership in various ways, but mostly, I’d say, they highlight various aspects of the same phenomenon.
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Leadership has been described as the “process of social influence in which one person is able to enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task”. A definition more inclusive of followers comes from Alan Keith of Genentech who said “Leadership is ultimately about creating a way for people to contribute to making something extraordinary happen.”
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Let’s have a look at couple of other definitions:
- “Leadership is the art of influencing and directing men in such a way as to obtain their willing obedience, confidence, respect and loyal cooperation in order to accomplish a mission.” (General Maxwell D. Taylor)
- “The only definition of a leader is someone who has followers.” (Peter Drucker)
- “leadership is influence – nothing more, nothing less.” (John C Maxwell)
- “Leadership is the creation and fulfillment of worthwhile opportunities by honorable means” (Herb Rubenstein)
In the article “What Is Leadership?” Nina Simosko, Global Chief Operating Officer for the worldwide SAP Education organization, ponders over factors that make a person a leader. Funny, but neither perfect education, nor working experience, nor cooperation with other leaders, not even inborn personal traits would make you a leader. There are countless examples of those that perhaps lacked one or more of the supposedly ‘necessary’ leadership traits, but still rose to tremendous success. One example, set by Ms.Simosko, is Joseph Moglia, Chairman of TD Ameritrade. From humble roots, he continued to strive for better and higher goals, achieving great things throughout his career. Joe attributes his success to “an ability to get inside the hearts and minds of your people, having them pull together for a common cause.”
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Being a leader you tie some people together with a prominent idea. They say that a leader without followers is not a leader, but derilict. But a leader without an idea, without unitive phylosophy is not a leader either. What else can influence the volume of power and longevity of a leader? Let’s talk about it next time!
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